Before You Go On The Hunt, Load Your Weapon!

The Game. Some love it, like myself, and some hate it. Those that hate it usually end up with the first person that shows them any sort of attention. It is easy to see why, isn't it? If you do not like The Game, doesn't it make sense that you will take whatever comes your way to get out of The Game? This is the beginning of a beautiful frie...scratch that! The reality is that is the beginning of a troubled relationship.

So, what do you do if you do not love The Game, but do not want to just settle with whatever comes your way then? Well if you improve your weapons, you'll improve what you catch, right? You would not go hunting with a slingshot and expect to take down any animal that could fill your freezer, right? With a slingshot you would have to settle for a squirrel or maybe something is big as a rabbit, but then that is only a couple of meals before it is gone. Yes, I am trying to keep it in the perspective of the Hunt, but you are understanding what I am getting at, aren't you?

We can agree then, that the better the weapon, the more successful the Hunt? Yes we can, now we are on the same page. In the Hunt, what are your weapons? Well, if you have been reading or hanging out with me you already know that looks, status, money, and what you do for a living are not necessarily the main thing that gets the girl. So those are NOT your weapons.

Your weapons are your attitude, your approach, and your understanding of women and the way they think. Right? Haven't I stated this at least once in our past? The weapon of choice...is knowledge, honey. Knowledge of women and how they think and what they react to. The more knowledge you have about this, the better your weapons. This makes sense, right?

Now that you have made the connection, KNOWLEDGE = UNDERSTANDING WOMEN, THUS PERFECTING YOUR ATTITUDE AND APPROACH, okay?. There is your weapon, boys. Chill the beer, this chick's in the bag. I mean that is the ultimate goal isn't it?

Listen, I am a woman of the Hunt, right? I live and breathe the Hunt! I am thrilled to be in the middle of the Hunt. Therefore, I have seen a few guys ability to Hunt, you think? Which is actually a good thing for you though, huh? I mean, if you can persuade the girls better, then you stand to be more successful at The Hunt and The Game, right? Right!

I can help you, but if you really want to increase that knowledge, it is going to some effort on your part. But I do have some good news for you. This weekend I received some emails from other people in the, oh, we'll call it the "relationship" biz. It appears my name is buzzing around and some of the other people are getting a little nervous wondering who this new kid on the block is. But this turns out to be a good thing for both me and you. The "heavy hitters" are starting to hear the buzz as well. And one of them (nationally known and has even appeared and been endorsed by Oprah, you can do about anything with Oprah money backing you, just ask our next president Obama) contacted me this weekend!

I will not bore you with the details, but basically he stated that he thought I had real potential. And he liked the way I address my audience by just being real about shit instead of trying to candy coat or (as he put it) "pussy foot around" the subject. So he offered me some Joint Venture basically stating he would rather join with me now then have to compete with me in the future. How cool is that? I'll tell you it's awesome!

And you benefit as well! Remember the whole point about knowledge equals success with the ladies above? This "heavy hitter" has given me what has been called the Ultimate Successful Relationship Package...EVER! And I get to offer it to you!

You want the ladies, right? You need the knowledge to get the ladies, right? You need to check this out and never worry about women issues ever again. How long is it going to take for you to be successful with women? Not long with this vast knowledge, huh? If I could provide you with all the tools you will need to learn the knowledge you need, would you get it? Of course you would, that is a no-brainer, right? Okay good!

==>So Go Get It, Now, And Be The One Taking The Girl Home Tonight!<== (don't forget to wave to the other guys while walking out the club, they love that...not really) P.S. I would be lying if I did not admit that my favorite book in this package was "Lick By Lick" but I am pretty sure you are going to dig "Blow By Blow", I am just saying...

~ Venus apparently the new up and comer of relationship information on the web! (I have to admit I love that...*giggle*)

http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory

The Being In The Band Phenomenon

Alright, I know that nobody is going to be able to explain this phenomenon to me, mainly because you would have to be a woman and so few read this blog.

But for you guys...holy shit what a gig! It happens almost every Friday and Saturday night. You go to a bar, a live band is playing, and as sure as hell there will be a row of "groupies" dancing in front of the stage (whether the music is dance able or not).

Now, I am not sure, even as a woman, what the hell happens here. Even on a psychological level I can not pin it down. I am sure it has something to do with the alpha dog effect, but I can not say for sure.

What I can say for sure is that if you are having absolutely no luck whatsoever with women, then pick up a guitar, bass guitar, or a set of drums and learn to play. Find a band that is doing at least bar gigs, and join it! I swear to you if you leave your mother's basement and can refrain from playing the world or warcraft long enough to be on that stage...you WILL get laid.

I can not explain WHY you will get laid, but you will. You could weigh 500 lbs., dripping with sweat, hair or no hair, and smelling like fritos and ass - AND YOU STILL ARE GET LAID THAT NIGHT! Those groupies are at least willing to go down on you.

Sometimes I don't even understand my own sex...just know that it is going to take more than a guitar in your hands and some shitty rendition of an AC/DC song to get me to go anywhere with you, let alone down. And you could have a record deal and fill stadiums, if you are not what I want, that you are not going to get what you want.

I guess I do not understand the groupie mentality. But be sure that groupie is going to be on every stiff member in the room at the "after party". So no game, no problem. Join the band boys! Just wrap the rascal...think of how many other "after parties" these girls have been at!

10 Things Men Know About Women

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10. Women have BOOBIES!

Are there women totally incapable of orgasm?

This is a touchy subject, as a man, to ask us women, right? Because if it is a friend or family member, you just feel creepy. And if it is a woman you are intimate with, she automatically seems to go on the defense about your sex life together. It seems no man can win asking this question, at least to a woman.

Well, I am going to help you out boys! As a woman, I will address this question head on, er, so to speak...

Let's start with the biological aspect to this. If the woman in question is a typical, healthy woman with all of her "parts" in tact and functional, then, Yes, she should be capable of having an orgasm. That being said, how you find out if everything is good biologically, well, let me know how that works out for you.

But, assuming biological systems a go...the most common reason a woman does not have an orgasm is because of "walls" or "barriers" that she has put up. This depends on her past sexual history. Her past experiences. Her childhood. Her morals. Her family's beliefs about sex while growing up. The influence of her mother, sisters, or friends on the subject. And probably a multitude of different facets of the woman's mind that you will never be able to figure out.

And that is what makes it difficult for you as a man. First, you have to find out what is causing the blockage in her. Then, IF you were successful at that, making sure that there is not more than one issue. Then, trying to find the ways to overcome these barriers.

Sound like a lot of work? It is. But the good news is that you can skip all of that emotional mind mapping described above and focus on one thing, and that one thing only! Wanna know what it is?

The only one thing you can learn that will ABSOLUTELY penetrate (no pun intended) that psychological barrier is that if the physical intensity overpowers all thoughts. And the ONLY way to do that is to perfect your ability to bring women to sexual arousal.

"But all you bitches are different" - that from one of the guys I hang out with. True, women (not all of us fall into the bitch category) are different. But I am telling you flat out, there are techniques you can master that bypasses all of this.

So, learn, perform, and master your art of getting her to sexual arousal and everything else will come into place (again, no pun intended).

Oh yeah, that's it baby, right THERE! LOL!

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory

P.S.
If you want to learn to master these sexual techniques, there is a system that teaches it.
You can check it out here: http://venusormars.com/masteroftheo

Day For Highest Success For 'Hunting' In The Game

Obviously, because most people work, the hunt is less likely to be successful on a week day. Monday through Thursday being the 4 "week days".

These days are great to just go hang and spend some time, maybe a drink or two with some of your friends. The prey is pretty scarce, so knowing this from the beginning, you are not disappointed that you can not "hunt".

Sunday is not a really good day either. For the most part, everybody is re-couping from their weekend frolic and folly. Besides, you can not have any good times knowing that Monday morning is just around the corner and coming up fast.

Most believe that Saturday night is the night of the "Hunt". There are some good hunting grounds to attend on Saturday, and definitely more prey at the watering hole than Sunday through Thursday. But, Saturday is really your 2nd choice, or maybe your backup plan.

Because Friday is the day to "Hunt" those women! We have had enough of work! Monday through Thursday probably was work related and sucked! We need to vent some pressures and some steam. We more than likely have called the pack to the watering holes before even leaving work. We are restless, we are starving for attention, and we want to have fun.

And guess what, you boys can be considered as part as our fun! It's true! And how better to relieve stress and pressures of the work week than having vigorous sex!

Take it from me, boys, Friday is THE night for the "Hunt". There is no disputing it. And Saturday is a good secondary or back up plan. But keep in mind, if you did not get any response to your game on Friday, you will have the same or worse results any other day, including Saturday. Because I am telling you, if we are going to allow at all for any weak ass game, it is going to be on Friday night for all the reasons I have already stated above.

To the Hunt!
~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory

Tiffany's Full System Teaches You To Get The Girl!

Guy Gets Girl

Seducing Women Using Deflection Theory

I am not sure if I have mentioned her here, but I have definitely mentioned her on my MySpace page (you will have to request to be a friend to see it, MySpace and I have had arguments about what is pornographic and what isn't...so far they have deleted 4 of my pictures to this date).

Tiff is one of my mentors too. She is DA BOMB! Anyways, here is her perspective on what is called, "The Deflective Theory". If you boys are smart, you will read it and take notes, Tiffany knows what she is talking about, of that there is absolutely no doubt.

Seducing Women Using Deflection Theory-by Tiffany Taylor
"There’s something that often happens when you’re out playing the ‘seduction game’ – that is, when you’re actively looking out for girls you think you’d like to hook-up with. Many men have experienced it, and many thousands of men still do experience it when they themselves are out playing the game. It usually goes something like this: you’re in a group, talking to a couple of girls. You’re with a friend or two, perhaps having drinks in a bar or at a party. You’ve got your eye on one girl in the group in particular and want to make something happen, make a bit of a connection. Thing is, she’s proving the hardest to connect to – sure, she smiles and talks to you nicely and politely, but she’s not returning your flirtatious gestures and comments much, if at all. It’s like she’ s playing hard to get or something, whereas her female friends seem to be much more playful and flirty.

This doesn’t happen because you aren’t her type or just because sometimes these things happen (or don’t) – there’s a different, special reason the girl you’re interested in doesn’t appear to be interested in you and it’s got a lot to do with psychology and social standing. You see, when you show you’re interested in a good- looking girl who’s with her friends, you inadvertently bump up her ego and feeling of self-worth. She knows you’ve chosen and are most interested in her and likes this feeling of elevated importance. However, she also knows that if she reacts by becoming really flirty and obviously attracted to YOU, she’ll lose the higher social value she has over her friends (probably the reason you targeted her in the first place), so she therefore maintains her unattainable, “I’m a bit too good for you” status.

However, you can blow this problem out of the water by using DEFLECTION THEORY. You turn the situation on its head and reverse the psychology of your target female by deflecting your attention AWAY from her and ONTO one or more of her friends. When you show her friends (who have lower social value/worth than your target female) more attention and affection, you challenge her ego. So, in an effort to regain her superiority in the hierarchy of her circle of friends, the girl you’re really interested in will subconsciously invest much MORE interest in you by flirting and being playful. As so many women do, she gives into wanting what she feels she cannot have – and, of course, you’ll be happy to have her. She is, after all, the hottest of the group and the one you wanted in the first place. Here’s how to deflect your attention onto one of her friends to make her (the girl you want) feel as if her ego has been challenged and thus make her feel an instant and undeniable desire to get your attention and “win” you back.

1. Use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls. However, when you’re talking to your target female, occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls (who will probably be talking amongst themselves or to your friend/friends if you’re with any) and give a slight smile before looking back at your target. This jackhammers a sense of competition into the subconscious mind of the girl you’re really interested in and immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.

2. Casually make physical contact with her friends more than her. For example, touch them on the side of their arm to get their attention or when laughing and joking.

3. When sitting down or standing around talking as a group, face slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the direction of one of her friends more than her.

Using deflection theory to challenge a girl you’re interested in’s ego and therefore make her want you more is just one psychological technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine it with others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in ways most men have and never will experience. You can be the guy that gets the girl!"
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Did you take down some notes? This absolutely works!

If you want some more free advice, check out: Got Venus?

If you are craving more knowledge and want a Master's Course in the Game,
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~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory

You got the "zackleys"...

There are men out there, that for all intents and purposes, have it all together but are still not scoring points for the home team (or the away either for that matter).

They got.........The "ZACKLEYS!"
(That's where your breath smells zackley like your ass!)

It is common. Especially in this fast food, poor eating habits world we live in.

Yes, it can be embarrassing, especially if everybody "pretends" it doesn't exist.
Or, despite the gum, mints, and other stuff you put in your mouth, it just barely covers it, but does not really get rid of it.

Hell yeah it sucks! For everybody involved! But let me help you solve it starting today!

At least a couple times a day, maybe more to start, take a regular teaspoon out of the silver ware drawer and turn it upside down (so it would dump it's contents on the floor). Go into your bathroom and stick your tongue out, taking the upside-down spoon, GENTLY press down onto the back of your tongue and drag the spoon toward the front of the mouth while keeping the pressure.

Gag factor - without getting too graphic - get over it, we did...

You are going to see some "stuff", "smuck", or whatever you want to call it in the spoon. Turn on the water faucet and rinse it clean. Bring it back up to your tongue and keep dragging it forward at least until the entire top surface of your tongue has be "scrapped". Feel free to continue though until you are comfortable. As long as you are not pressing into your tongue too hard, it really should not damage anything.

Now follow up with a mouth wash/rinse. Then brush your teeth, and when all done brush your tongue a couple times too.

Do this at least once in the morning, and once before going out.

You see, the tongue has millions of little pockets, like pores. And the highest percentage of bad breath smell comes from the food and decaying particles inside those pockets.

This will help clear the pockets and thus, help eliminate the bad breath! Gum, mints, and other breath fresheners only cover the issue temporarily, this method actually cleans and eliminates the "stuff" that is causing the problem.

We are all adults here, yes it is gross, but believe me, I would rather have you do that then try and talk to me with the "Zackleys".

Nobody has to know what you are doing in your home bathroom.

Hope this helps,

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory

Might as well be truthful...

This philosophy gets me in trouble now and then. I have a history of not meaning to hurt somebody when I tell them the truth, but they did ask me.

It's not like I do not have a filter, I do, despite what my mother thinks. It is just that if you want an answer or advice from someone, I would think you would want the truth, right?

If I went to my financial adviser and asked, "Hey how's my accounts doing?" If they say, "Great!" then I get my quarterly statement showing a loss for all three months, I am going to be pissed!

Anyways, while out this weekend, a friend of mine asked for advice. And I think that the pure honesty that I answer with sometimes makes a friend wanna reach across a table and choke a bitch occasionally...

But then, wouldn't you WANT to know the truth? You did ask me, by the way, I did not just "offer" it up. See, my boys know I give advice out and they use me frequently in this manner. So when one of my boys asked why he is not succeeding with the ladies, I told him the exact reason, and although he was hurt (I could see it) I hope he understands that taking care of the problems will prevent him from so much rejection in the future.

It was a common problem, and I will give a solution in the next post.

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory

There Can Be Only One...

Seriously, though. Anybody who lives by the "Highlander" credo really needs to explore the world more.

For those of you who know me, you know I have a reputation helping guys get the girl. Now, re-read that last line very c-a-r-e-f-u-l-l-y. I am not stating that I am a relationship guru. I'm not. I help people hook up by teaching the way people think, body language, and other things.

The relationship is up to you. Don't look at me, I don't believe in Love. At least not now. And I have no plans on changing that right now in my life.

So, all this above is because a "friend" of mine on MySpace (http://myspace.com/gotvenus) wrote me to say that "He doesn't need any advice because he is a student of "Andrea Syrtash" - a Life Coach that does a show, "ONDating" for Yahoo Personals.

Uh, ok. She definitely has me on the credentials.

But I am not about the dating, I am about the hook up! But, to be fair, I went and checked her out anyways. Very beautiful girl, too! So, here is an example of her work, and my opinions to her advice, just to do a comparison...
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From "Office Romance: Taboo or To-Do?"
by Andrea Syrtash (note full article above, below is just a portion...)

Here are some other rules of managing office romance:

1. Do not blab to the whole office the night you first hook up. Confide in your friends in the 'real world'

2. Figure out if it's a fun roll in the hay or if you see long-term potential with this person. If it's fun sex, it may not be worth taking the risk but if it's looking like you may have a future with your office mate, it may be worth exploring.

3. And finally -- if it's explicitly stated in your contract that office romance is against company policy ask yourself -- is it worth losing your job over your crush? Maybe.

The bottom line is that office romance happens. In fact, I'm betting someone down the hall from you is having a little office fling of her own as you're reading this article...

So -- weigh the risks against the rewards when evaluating the possibility of an office romance. Do a solid cost-benefit analysis. I'm sure my math crush Jonathan would have been satisfied with that equation.

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Replies ~ Venus
1. I agree, no blabbing in the office, in fact, I would keep it from my friends too until I thought it was going to be something in my future to be with this person.
2. Again, I agree, nice to know where you stand - booty office call OR potential life mate?
3. I am unsure, even if explicitly stated in a work contract, I think with the right lawyer, you could have a good lawsuit.

And true, office romance does happen.

Okay, that is where it all ends in agreement.

Venus' BOTTOM LINE...

Guys: NEVER, NEVER, NEVER dip your "pen" into the "company inkwell" (for you sort of slow ones, that means NO OFFICE DATING! {unless it is not your office *wink*}).

Anyways, it never works out good, at least I have never heard, "Yeah, I met Jill at my office, I feel in love, asked her out, and we have been married and working together for 5 years...."

I HAVE heard, "My God, she went all psycho on me when I called it off. She threw stuff at me, had a tantrum in the office, got my boss pretty pissed at me..." or "I just happened to look in this girl's direction and she was all over me about cheating on her and how she supposed I wanted to do her now too..." and my personal favorite, "Man, my life is a living hell! I love her, but I can not escape her! I feel like she is up my ass constantly! We live together, sleep together, eat together, work together...I mean, sometimes I feel like the Men's restroom is my only safe haven..."

Take your risks, sure, for LOVE. But I am not about relationships. I am about the Game.

Girls: Please re-read the above. If you can not admit it, I can. You are an emotional powder keg just waiting to have your fuse lit. The work place is not the place to expose this. Office romance is so not worth it. They are men, they are going to piss you off at work. But when you are involved, it is AMPLIFIED. Look elsewhere for your boys. The Office should be Off your list of locations.
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Ok, so what have we established? Nothing really.

*Andrea has credentials and talks about dating and relationships.
-Venus has no credentials (all street) and talks about the hook up, not relationships.

*Andrea has a television/web show all about dating and relationships.
-Venus does not have her own show, but I'm not hating.

*You need advice on how to keep the dating and relationship going and fresh, seek Andrea.
-You just want to have fun, play the Game, keep dating, but different people, seek Venus.

And Finally, my MySpace friend needs to know that I am not pretending to be the end all be all person to go to for dating advice, and that there are many different advice givers about dating.

In any case...I have no desire to hunt Andrea down, pull out my ancient sword and try to be-head her as I scream, "There can only be ONE!"

Toddles,

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory

Another Example Of One Of My Boys Using Me...

I know what you are thinking...but back the truck up. Let me explain...

This last weekend, several places were hoppin', and of course, me and my crew was at one of them. I was introduced to Petron this weekend, and I have to say it is very smooth...but that is not what this post is about, maybe another time.

Anyways...one of the guys I was hangin' out with targets himself a girlie and goes in for the kill. I was observing...because I had given him some advice, and I LOVE to observe the results.

He walks up to her and starts asking her lame questions...and I was thinking, "Uh-oh...I may have to bail him out of this one..." and continued to watch.

He said, "So...are you a model?"
She laughed at him and said, "NOOoooo!"
"Oh....are you an actress then?"
Again she laughed, "NOOooo!"
"Well, you have to work SOMEwhere that requires a beautiful woman..."
She only smiled this time, "No, I am a dental assistant..."

I am thinking, my GOD! I taught him better than that! Then, like a Phoenix, he rose right of the ashes in front of my eyes and says...

"Man.....I TOLD Venus those lame pick up lines would not work...."

She starts laughing again and he follows up with..."I am glad you got a sense of humor..." and then tells her his name. Following up with "Let me get you a drink for putting up with me anyways...you like beer or liquor?"

There's my boy, force an answer...not an out!

So you see, even though I thought he was not listening to me, he somehow used my advice and kicked it up a notch...thus, that is how one of my boys used me!

It must of worked because just over an hour later they were walking out the door together and just before leaving he turned to me and "pointed the gun finger and winked"...okay, sometimes you can take the boy outta cheezyville, but you can't take the cheese outta the boy...

Until next time
~ Venus
http://gotvenus.com

One For My Girls

Summer time is here! YEAH!

Okay, so I have the solution for the perfect kissable lips for the summertime.

The sun can dry and chap, so can the summer wind. It seems chap-stick products have this weird affect (at least on me) that the more you use them, the more you need to use them. And it is constantly messing up the lipstick, am I right?

Right, start looking for lipsticks in your shades of color, that have a SPF of 15 or more built in. These lipsticks block the sun affects and moisturize at the same time, thus not needing additional protection. Drop the chap stick-like products.

It does not matter the brand name or color, as long as it has a minimum of SPF 15 built into the lipstick. Healthy, glistening lips in the summer time sun get the boys going during the close up sessions (Because let's face it, the bikini from the distance is what brings them in close up).

Now for the overnight maintenance...

Ok, (and I am sure that this is going to produce some perverted thoughts in the minds of the men who read this, but.....) the BEST product for overnight working/protection of the lips is a healthy application of a Vaseline-type product (you can almost watch their minds go there, can't you?).

CAUTION: Some promote the use of Olive Oil, Baby Oil, and even Vitamin E Oil on your lips for overnight. The truth is all of these work wonders on the skin, but have an adverse affect on the lips when applied at anytime. I do not know the scientific reason as to why, and I don't care, what I do know is that the use of these products on your lips actually has a drying-out affect and produces damage.

So there ya go...perfect summertime puckers!

Laters,

~ Venus

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Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

A self-fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true.

There are other ways to say this...what you reap, you sow, whether you think you can or can not do it-you are correct, what you believe-you can achieve, etc.

It may not be obvious to you, a lot of people take it for granted. Ultimately, beliefs about a subject control your experience of that subject. For instance, if in your beliefs, you think that you can never get the hot chicks, those beliefs about hot chicks prevent you from getting the very thing you want...the hot chicks!

Sometimes it is not a conscious effort. If during your experiences at trying to hook up, you can not relate to yourself any time that you were successful at getting the hot chicks, then suddenly that becomes the norm for all of your experiences.

This usually starts when you are a young, awkward teenager trying to ask the girls out for a date. And more than likely you were shot down, usually heartlessly because in high school we tend to be bitches, I ain't going to lie.

As cruel as it sounds, something in nature at that time makes us girls do all we can to break your ego. Now, before you go all crazy, it is not our faults, it is a flaw that seems to be hard wired in us. My belief is because we mature faster, and gain our confidence faster than teenage boys, and then the "oh you are sooo not going to get this" chic comes out of us.

But I am getting off course. . .

To get back to the guys, that first rejection is a significant event that will mold a lot in a boy, subconsciously. That rejection sets the standard for his beliefs (particularly his belief in himself). Now that the standard is set, the ego takes over, it has a template to follow and feed. Now a sort of filter is set so that you tend to ignore and forget positive events with women and dating, and focus, intensely, on all the negative events with women and dating. A "yes" or an easy let down does not get through the filter and remembered. But all the "bitches" and "humiliation rejections" make it right past the filter. Each one only re-inforcing the "standard" that every time you interact with a woman, you are expecting a repeat of that first rejection to play over and over and over again. And since the "filter" only lets in those experiences to re-inforce itself, it becomes a pattern. Usually this all happens subconsciously.

This is a long explanation, but the bottom line is if you expect you are going to fail miserably with asking a woman out....well, you are!

Until next time,
~ Venus

**** The Cat Is Out!!...If you think the above was a good explanation, then you need to go get my First in a dating series of writings, "The Oldest Battle" for free at: http://gotvenus.com
I would like some opinions please-be honest, always be honest...
Thanks,
~ Venus