How Confidence Eqautes To Hooking Up With Women

This is such a vital and important subject! As men you have to know this through and through!

Confidence without substance (or nothing behind it backing it up) is nothing more than arrogance! And knowing that can make all the difference from you as a man being blown off or blown...

You see, women, for all our flaws you think we may have, absolutely know the difference between a man who thinks he confident, but really is arrogant, and a man who has confidence due to his vast experience.

Guess which one we are going home with?

That was a rhetorical question, if you for one moment thought to yourself, "uh, arrogant?" then quit reading right this very moment! I can not help you yet. You need to go back to "dating for noobs!" and after passing through them, then come back to me.

The irony in all this is that in order to get the confidence, you need the experience. Without it, you will just come across as an arrogant ass that out on the dance floor annoying us girls with your "I am not getting any tonight!" dance moves.

Thus the vital importance of this all. Why I will continue to push you to just get out there and experiment with something every day! Just say hi to every passing girl with a smile and direct eye contact.

Soon you will be seeing them shy away after saying hi. You might even over hear them say to one of their friends, "he's cute!"

Now, I ask you, if you can get to the point that almost every girl you say hi to at least says hi back, but often you get the head down shy look (body language saying she is digging you) or the occasional "he's cute", do you THINK you will start to have some confidence building in you?

Another rhetorical, keep up with me honey!

From there you can move on to asking for a casual "time shared" scenario (stay away from the term "dating", it puts the women on guard and apprehensive).

Just ask to buy them a cup of coffee or if you know where she is going to be, surprise her with a drink. Maybe a cola on a hot day or something. This is non-threatening and gives you more time to be with her and work your magic!

The point here is to get experience under your belt as fast as possible so that you can build up that confidence! Then you can go up to girls in the future and start a conversation but they will see the confidence of a man with experience, instead of a bloated ego ass that will be going home with just his hand again tonight!

Until next time, remember, no Glove, no Love!

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory - but damn! She's sexy!

The Being In The Band Phenomenon

Alright, I know that nobody is going to be able to explain this phenomenon to me, mainly because you would have to be a woman and so few read this blog.

But for you guys...holy shit what a gig! It happens almost every Friday and Saturday night. You go to a bar, a live band is playing, and as sure as hell there will be a row of "groupies" dancing in front of the stage (whether the music is dance able or not).

Now, I am not sure, even as a woman, what the hell happens here. Even on a psychological level I can not pin it down. I am sure it has something to do with the alpha dog effect, but I can not say for sure.

What I can say for sure is that if you are having absolutely no luck whatsoever with women, then pick up a guitar, bass guitar, or a set of drums and learn to play. Find a band that is doing at least bar gigs, and join it! I swear to you if you leave your mother's basement and can refrain from playing the world or warcraft long enough to be on that stage...you WILL get laid.

I can not explain WHY you will get laid, but you will. You could weigh 500 lbs., dripping with sweat, hair or no hair, and smelling like fritos and ass - AND YOU STILL ARE GET LAID THAT NIGHT! Those groupies are at least willing to go down on you.

Sometimes I don't even understand my own sex...just know that it is going to take more than a guitar in your hands and some shitty rendition of an AC/DC song to get me to go anywhere with you, let alone down. And you could have a record deal and fill stadiums, if you are not what I want, that you are not going to get what you want.

I guess I do not understand the groupie mentality. But be sure that groupie is going to be on every stiff member in the room at the "after party". So no game, no problem. Join the band boys! Just wrap the rascal...think of how many other "after parties" these girls have been at!

Are there women totally incapable of orgasm?

This is a touchy subject, as a man, to ask us women, right? Because if it is a friend or family member, you just feel creepy. And if it is a woman you are intimate with, she automatically seems to go on the defense about your sex life together. It seems no man can win asking this question, at least to a woman.

Well, I am going to help you out boys! As a woman, I will address this question head on, er, so to speak...

Let's start with the biological aspect to this. If the woman in question is a typical, healthy woman with all of her "parts" in tact and functional, then, Yes, she should be capable of having an orgasm. That being said, how you find out if everything is good biologically, well, let me know how that works out for you.

But, assuming biological systems a go...the most common reason a woman does not have an orgasm is because of "walls" or "barriers" that she has put up. This depends on her past sexual history. Her past experiences. Her childhood. Her morals. Her family's beliefs about sex while growing up. The influence of her mother, sisters, or friends on the subject. And probably a multitude of different facets of the woman's mind that you will never be able to figure out.

And that is what makes it difficult for you as a man. First, you have to find out what is causing the blockage in her. Then, IF you were successful at that, making sure that there is not more than one issue. Then, trying to find the ways to overcome these barriers.

Sound like a lot of work? It is. But the good news is that you can skip all of that emotional mind mapping described above and focus on one thing, and that one thing only! Wanna know what it is?

The only one thing you can learn that will ABSOLUTELY penetrate (no pun intended) that psychological barrier is that if the physical intensity overpowers all thoughts. And the ONLY way to do that is to perfect your ability to bring women to sexual arousal.

"But all you bitches are different" - that from one of the guys I hang out with. True, women (not all of us fall into the bitch category) are different. But I am telling you flat out, there are techniques you can master that bypasses all of this.

So, learn, perform, and master your art of getting her to sexual arousal and everything else will come into place (again, no pun intended).

Oh yeah, that's it baby, right THERE! LOL!

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory

P.S.
If you want to learn to master these sexual techniques, there is a system that teaches it.
You can check it out here: http://venusormars.com/masteroftheo

Day For Highest Success For 'Hunting' In The Game

Obviously, because most people work, the hunt is less likely to be successful on a week day. Monday through Thursday being the 4 "week days".

These days are great to just go hang and spend some time, maybe a drink or two with some of your friends. The prey is pretty scarce, so knowing this from the beginning, you are not disappointed that you can not "hunt".

Sunday is not a really good day either. For the most part, everybody is re-couping from their weekend frolic and folly. Besides, you can not have any good times knowing that Monday morning is just around the corner and coming up fast.

Most believe that Saturday night is the night of the "Hunt". There are some good hunting grounds to attend on Saturday, and definitely more prey at the watering hole than Sunday through Thursday. But, Saturday is really your 2nd choice, or maybe your backup plan.

Because Friday is the day to "Hunt" those women! We have had enough of work! Monday through Thursday probably was work related and sucked! We need to vent some pressures and some steam. We more than likely have called the pack to the watering holes before even leaving work. We are restless, we are starving for attention, and we want to have fun.

And guess what, you boys can be considered as part as our fun! It's true! And how better to relieve stress and pressures of the work week than having vigorous sex!

Take it from me, boys, Friday is THE night for the "Hunt". There is no disputing it. And Saturday is a good secondary or back up plan. But keep in mind, if you did not get any response to your game on Friday, you will have the same or worse results any other day, including Saturday. Because I am telling you, if we are going to allow at all for any weak ass game, it is going to be on Friday night for all the reasons I have already stated above.

To the Hunt!
~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory

Seducing Women Using Deflection Theory

I am not sure if I have mentioned her here, but I have definitely mentioned her on my MySpace page (you will have to request to be a friend to see it, MySpace and I have had arguments about what is pornographic and what isn't...so far they have deleted 4 of my pictures to this date).

Tiff is one of my mentors too. She is DA BOMB! Anyways, here is her perspective on what is called, "The Deflective Theory". If you boys are smart, you will read it and take notes, Tiffany knows what she is talking about, of that there is absolutely no doubt.

Seducing Women Using Deflection Theory-by Tiffany Taylor
"There’s something that often happens when you’re out playing the ‘seduction game’ – that is, when you’re actively looking out for girls you think you’d like to hook-up with. Many men have experienced it, and many thousands of men still do experience it when they themselves are out playing the game. It usually goes something like this: you’re in a group, talking to a couple of girls. You’re with a friend or two, perhaps having drinks in a bar or at a party. You’ve got your eye on one girl in the group in particular and want to make something happen, make a bit of a connection. Thing is, she’s proving the hardest to connect to – sure, she smiles and talks to you nicely and politely, but she’s not returning your flirtatious gestures and comments much, if at all. It’s like she’ s playing hard to get or something, whereas her female friends seem to be much more playful and flirty.

This doesn’t happen because you aren’t her type or just because sometimes these things happen (or don’t) – there’s a different, special reason the girl you’re interested in doesn’t appear to be interested in you and it’s got a lot to do with psychology and social standing. You see, when you show you’re interested in a good- looking girl who’s with her friends, you inadvertently bump up her ego and feeling of self-worth. She knows you’ve chosen and are most interested in her and likes this feeling of elevated importance. However, she also knows that if she reacts by becoming really flirty and obviously attracted to YOU, she’ll lose the higher social value she has over her friends (probably the reason you targeted her in the first place), so she therefore maintains her unattainable, “I’m a bit too good for you” status.

However, you can blow this problem out of the water by using DEFLECTION THEORY. You turn the situation on its head and reverse the psychology of your target female by deflecting your attention AWAY from her and ONTO one or more of her friends. When you show her friends (who have lower social value/worth than your target female) more attention and affection, you challenge her ego. So, in an effort to regain her superiority in the hierarchy of her circle of friends, the girl you’re really interested in will subconsciously invest much MORE interest in you by flirting and being playful. As so many women do, she gives into wanting what she feels she cannot have – and, of course, you’ll be happy to have her. She is, after all, the hottest of the group and the one you wanted in the first place. Here’s how to deflect your attention onto one of her friends to make her (the girl you want) feel as if her ego has been challenged and thus make her feel an instant and undeniable desire to get your attention and “win” you back.

1. Use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls. However, when you’re talking to your target female, occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls (who will probably be talking amongst themselves or to your friend/friends if you’re with any) and give a slight smile before looking back at your target. This jackhammers a sense of competition into the subconscious mind of the girl you’re really interested in and immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.

2. Casually make physical contact with her friends more than her. For example, touch them on the side of their arm to get their attention or when laughing and joking.

3. When sitting down or standing around talking as a group, face slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the direction of one of her friends more than her.

Using deflection theory to challenge a girl you’re interested in’s ego and therefore make her want you more is just one psychological technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine it with others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in ways most men have and never will experience. You can be the guy that gets the girl!"
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Did you take down some notes? This absolutely works!

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~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory