New Short Story Posted.

On my other blog, I have posted an example short story of what my upcoming book, "Bedtime Stories". I have had several requests about it, so I am posting a link here for you to go check it out.

http://gotvenus.wordpress.com/2008/10/18/want-a-sample-of-my-wares-do-you-a-short-bedtime-story-by-request/

I am thinking about posting another one here. Only time will tell

~Venus

How Do I Hook Up With This Guy?!?!?

This email came to me, and I thought I should answer it here in my blog.

I think that it is great that other girls are coming to me for advice. I am used to having the opposite, bitching at me for my advice to men.







"How can I arouse turn on a guy without even touching him?"

It is fall, that means that it is the perfect time to play to a man's fantasy girl! I guarantee 75% of men have a fantasy about a sexy chic in a school girl uniform.

No need for physical contact.

Wear a lace set (white, of course to subconsciously mind F-him > makes him subconsciously believe you're a virgin and he is going to be the first to explore that territory!) of bra and panties.

Wear a plaid skirt just above the knee height. Wear a white button up men's shirt with the buttons undone as low as you're comfortable (but if you want to drive him absolutely F-ing nuts, keep it unbuttoned and just tie it around just below your breasts).

Wear your hair in either pig tails or a pony tail and upon meeting him walk up to him in "model" style (cross legs as you walk forward-making sure to make those hips talk as you walk).

And when you are about half way between the starting point of seeing him and getting to him, exaggerate taking your hair out of the pig tails or pony tail letting your hair drop.

Stop in front of him and tilt your head to one side and give him the innocent-take me look (girls you know the one).

If he does not have an erection by the time you have stopped in front of him...he might be gay!

~ Venus

How Confidence Eqautes To Hooking Up With Women

This is such a vital and important subject! As men you have to know this through and through!

Confidence without substance (or nothing behind it backing it up) is nothing more than arrogance! And knowing that can make all the difference from you as a man being blown off or blown...

You see, women, for all our flaws you think we may have, absolutely know the difference between a man who thinks he confident, but really is arrogant, and a man who has confidence due to his vast experience.

Guess which one we are going home with?

That was a rhetorical question, if you for one moment thought to yourself, "uh, arrogant?" then quit reading right this very moment! I can not help you yet. You need to go back to "dating for noobs!" and after passing through them, then come back to me.

The irony in all this is that in order to get the confidence, you need the experience. Without it, you will just come across as an arrogant ass that out on the dance floor annoying us girls with your "I am not getting any tonight!" dance moves.

Thus the vital importance of this all. Why I will continue to push you to just get out there and experiment with something every day! Just say hi to every passing girl with a smile and direct eye contact.

Soon you will be seeing them shy away after saying hi. You might even over hear them say to one of their friends, "he's cute!"

Now, I ask you, if you can get to the point that almost every girl you say hi to at least says hi back, but often you get the head down shy look (body language saying she is digging you) or the occasional "he's cute", do you THINK you will start to have some confidence building in you?

Another rhetorical, keep up with me honey!

From there you can move on to asking for a casual "time shared" scenario (stay away from the term "dating", it puts the women on guard and apprehensive).

Just ask to buy them a cup of coffee or if you know where she is going to be, surprise her with a drink. Maybe a cola on a hot day or something. This is non-threatening and gives you more time to be with her and work your magic!

The point here is to get experience under your belt as fast as possible so that you can build up that confidence! Then you can go up to girls in the future and start a conversation but they will see the confidence of a man with experience, instead of a bloated ego ass that will be going home with just his hand again tonight!

Until next time, remember, no Glove, no Love!

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory - but damn! She's sexy!

Venus Does A PSA...

It had just occurred to me, that my topics are always about hooking up, but I have yet to do my part for a Public Service Announcement.

And really, it is my fault, because for some reason (probably association because I do) I assume that everybody is practicing safe sex! But I never have made sure to remind you guys!

Guys - listen, fun is fun for shizzle! But being a daddy means manning up and being a father! And if you are not ready for that role, it comes as a shock! Think your bills are expensive? Try child support! How great would it be to be pulled over for a broken tail light and going to jail for back child support? And if you made it through all that...there's always STDs trying to attach themselves to you. A lot of that can not be cured with a shot or just a pill, you know. SO - My advice to you is to ALWAYS (never an exception - raw dog don't do) WRAP THAT RASCAL!

Girls - truth is men are, well, they are just men. So it is best to protect yourself ALWAYS for the exact same reasons above (even child support in some cases). Just be prepared, that way you will know. And in the case where you don't have any, and he isn't carrying either - force that trip to the corner store! LIVE BY THE MOTTO GIRLS - NO GLOVE, NO LOVE!

Okay - my commitment has been fulfilled...

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory - but damn! She's sexy!

The Kinky Sex Location Poll...

I posted this one in my myspace blog (http://myspace.com/gotvenus <=private ask for invitation) but I do so love poles, er, I mean polls. The top 10 favorite "Kinky Locations" to have sex, according to women polled between the ages of 18 and 45, (and my personal comments/experiences) are: 1) The Beach (Bring a blanket-sand sucks!! Avoid-"What are they doing, mom"?) 2) Elevators (Helps if woman in front with skirt...just saying) 3) Moving Cars (This usually entails a hummer-no, not the SUV!) 4) Nature trails (Hell yeah! Fallen trees are great to be bent over!) 5) Hot Tubs (I am not a big fan, great though to get started!) 6) Dressing Rooms (Stores don't appreciate it, but that's part of the thrill) 7) In front of hotel windows (High room, pressed against the window-HOT!) 8) Public Restrooms (Again, not one of my favs, but get it started!) 9) Balconies (Late night after closing the bars...summer time) 10) Pools (Preferably a privately owned one, public just too exposed) The hottest place, but a huge risk nowadays, Airplanes! Who doesn't want to be part of the mile high club??? For more sex tips and advice go to http://venusormars.com/sex

Here's to Adventure! Wrap That Rascal!
~ Venus

Gentlemen, I Require Your Assistance, Please!

Alright Guys,

I got myself in trouble. I was having a "debate" with a friend about my methods, and other methods, and other hooking up ideas.

Long story short, I opened my mouth and stated I could create a program that could help much more than half the products out there I'm seeing. Some of the articles I read about dating and hooking up I wonder if the author even realized that's the subject? Just because something worked one time for a man, does not make it the norm for all men, yet that is what I see a lot!

Well, I felt the sting of the words as they were spoken towards me..."prove it!"

So, I am not sure what I got myself into, but I could really, really, use your help. It is not going to be anything hard.

I would like you to send me the top 5 questions you have and want answered about hooking up, dating, or women in general.

Will you do that for me? I can give you a reason to...your questions might be part of the subject matter of my project that I have dared myself into. Plus, I might even give you some drafts while it is being created, giving YOU the first look at it and to use its methods first.

It may sound cliche' but, help me to help you. Give me the subjects you want the most help with...please?

Okay, email your questions, suggestions to :
askvenus@myway.com

And let me thank you in advance, THANK YOU!

~Venus

P.S. By the way, did you know I have another blog? It has been up and running a while now. Go check it out! It is at http://gotvenus.wordpress.com

Can We Talk?

I normally do not do this, mainly because I hate having to do it. But occasionally, I run across something on the "dating" advice columns and forums, etc., that I have to comment on. But because some authors do not like constructive criticism, sometimes I have to do it this way.

This helps further support my point that if you want to get the job of picking up women done right, you need to get a woman to teach you how to do the job. No disrespect to this author, overall it is a quick commentary on some things he might of tried and got lucky with once or twice.
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3 Ways on How to Get a Girl's Number In Ten Minutes
by Imran Naseem

"Many guys who want to get to know a girl often find it hard to get her cell phone number if they lack confidence. There are in fact several ways that you can use to have a girl give you her number in just 10 minutes. This article will explore three 3 different ways of having a girl give you her number in a short space of time without you having to beg."

Find it hard? Straight up, I am going to tell you no confidence, no phone number. Begging is not going to help regardless.

"One of the best ways of having a girl give you her number is make an excuse up. For example, you can say something like I" am going to be going away soon and would love to catch up with you again, is it alright if I can give you a call"? This is inviting the girl to say yes because it is a closed question and most likely she would say yes if you use the correct tone of voice and language. Make sure you are smiling and give her eye contact. Avoid looking away as girls can sometimes feel insecure about things like this."

An excuse has to be stated right. If you are going to use this tactic, then use something like, "Hey, I would love to talk about it right now, but I got this appointment I can't be late for...why don't you give me your number and I'll call afterwards to meet up with you somewhere and we can continue on, we can do that right?"

This is non-threatening, and the last part mentally hits the woman as "it's cool" and "no harm in talking right"? And of course, the getting a yes or agreement with the "right?" just subconsciously makes her want to continue saying yes. The more yes answers you can force, the more likely she will say yes to your asking for a number or "casual get together", because the word "date" will scare us off quickly, right students?

Okay, that being said, if you are a student of mine, then you know already, "can I give you a call?" is an absolute no-no! You are giving the girl a chance to say "No" to a yes or no answer!

If you are a student of mine, you know that you provide options for them to choose at your discretion, not yes or no! You are much better off saying, "You wanna give me your number? Or better yet here's mine, call me now so I can have it handy when I call you later..."

You see how it works? She is still allowed the "freedom" of choice here, but the only real choice is to give you her number! I will give the author credit about one thing though, he is correct in tone of voice, smiling, and eye contact. And I agree if you look away at that particular moment, it is not a good sign to us women.

"Secondly, one of the best ways to get a girl's number is to just directly ask her if you can have her number. Many girls would question you or might hesitate so this is where you have to play it cool and act as though she will not able to speak to you if she does not give her number. Make it out as though you are really busy with work and you are going to make time for her. Girls like a guy who plays "hard to get"."

If you want to play a pure numbers game, then just be direct with every woman. The problem is you have to go through a LOT of women that way to get your number.

There is a fine line between confidence and asshole, following this advice may put you in the later category. And for the record, we like mysterious, as in we can't quite figure out what is going on but we like it, NOT hard to get.

You are men, we can have you guys all day long! Any man with a working sex drive is never going to be hard to get, we know that!

Again I would suggest that you can use the "busy at the moment" technique as explained by me above. But if you are going to act like you are too busy with work, that means you're NOT going to have the time to dedicate to us, and let's be honest, we are attention craving, so we are going to drop this game. Maybe your admin can provide your busy ass what you were looking for in us.

"And finally, the best way to get a girl's number is to ask her to "miss call you" as you want to show her your latest ringtone song that you like. This will bring a bit of humor to this but it would not be a problem provided you get her trust.

For an excellent guide on how to get a girls number and how to win her heart go to http://www.IHaveFallenForYou.com.

Imran Naseem"

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Trust is the key to this last suggestion. But if you are meeting someone for the first time, you are not going to gain that sort of trust in the 10 minute window provided. If you actually succeed with this tactic, then I can assure you that woman was going to try to give you her number before you actually started to talk to each other anyways.

We are not going to fall for that! We have cell phones too you know...you wanna play some ring tone for me, go into your menu and play it. I am not going to call you to hear it! How simple do you think we really are?

Alright, there you have it. I am sorry Imran if you take offense to this. But I am giving your article and website a plug...*smooches* < < (that's me showing sum love...)

Tiffany and I talk about this all the time. There is a HUGE misappropriate proportion of men representing the "how to date women" category as compared to women. Not that it is bad, in fact, for us it is friggin' awesome!!! But we are always asking ourselves how do some of these men come to the conclusion of what they are presenting as helpful methods? A lot of the times, if you read that same advice to a woman, say a friend or sister, she is going to say something along the lines of, "yeah.....let me know how that works out for you..."

So, if you try Imran's methods....let me know how that works out for you....

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory

The Being In The Band Phenomenon

Alright, I know that nobody is going to be able to explain this phenomenon to me, mainly because you would have to be a woman and so few read this blog.

But for you guys...holy shit what a gig! It happens almost every Friday and Saturday night. You go to a bar, a live band is playing, and as sure as hell there will be a row of "groupies" dancing in front of the stage (whether the music is dance able or not).

Now, I am not sure, even as a woman, what the hell happens here. Even on a psychological level I can not pin it down. I am sure it has something to do with the alpha dog effect, but I can not say for sure.

What I can say for sure is that if you are having absolutely no luck whatsoever with women, then pick up a guitar, bass guitar, or a set of drums and learn to play. Find a band that is doing at least bar gigs, and join it! I swear to you if you leave your mother's basement and can refrain from playing the world or warcraft long enough to be on that stage...you WILL get laid.

I can not explain WHY you will get laid, but you will. You could weigh 500 lbs., dripping with sweat, hair or no hair, and smelling like fritos and ass - AND YOU STILL ARE GET LAID THAT NIGHT! Those groupies are at least willing to go down on you.

Sometimes I don't even understand my own sex...just know that it is going to take more than a guitar in your hands and some shitty rendition of an AC/DC song to get me to go anywhere with you, let alone down. And you could have a record deal and fill stadiums, if you are not what I want, that you are not going to get what you want.

I guess I do not understand the groupie mentality. But be sure that groupie is going to be on every stiff member in the room at the "after party". So no game, no problem. Join the band boys! Just wrap the rascal...think of how many other "after parties" these girls have been at!

Are there women totally incapable of orgasm?

This is a touchy subject, as a man, to ask us women, right? Because if it is a friend or family member, you just feel creepy. And if it is a woman you are intimate with, she automatically seems to go on the defense about your sex life together. It seems no man can win asking this question, at least to a woman.

Well, I am going to help you out boys! As a woman, I will address this question head on, er, so to speak...

Let's start with the biological aspect to this. If the woman in question is a typical, healthy woman with all of her "parts" in tact and functional, then, Yes, she should be capable of having an orgasm. That being said, how you find out if everything is good biologically, well, let me know how that works out for you.

But, assuming biological systems a go...the most common reason a woman does not have an orgasm is because of "walls" or "barriers" that she has put up. This depends on her past sexual history. Her past experiences. Her childhood. Her morals. Her family's beliefs about sex while growing up. The influence of her mother, sisters, or friends on the subject. And probably a multitude of different facets of the woman's mind that you will never be able to figure out.

And that is what makes it difficult for you as a man. First, you have to find out what is causing the blockage in her. Then, IF you were successful at that, making sure that there is not more than one issue. Then, trying to find the ways to overcome these barriers.

Sound like a lot of work? It is. But the good news is that you can skip all of that emotional mind mapping described above and focus on one thing, and that one thing only! Wanna know what it is?

The only one thing you can learn that will ABSOLUTELY penetrate (no pun intended) that psychological barrier is that if the physical intensity overpowers all thoughts. And the ONLY way to do that is to perfect your ability to bring women to sexual arousal.

"But all you bitches are different" - that from one of the guys I hang out with. True, women (not all of us fall into the bitch category) are different. But I am telling you flat out, there are techniques you can master that bypasses all of this.

So, learn, perform, and master your art of getting her to sexual arousal and everything else will come into place (again, no pun intended).

Oh yeah, that's it baby, right THERE! LOL!

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory

P.S.
If you want to learn to master these sexual techniques, there is a system that teaches it.
You can check it out here: http://venusormars.com/masteroftheo

There Can Be Only One...

Seriously, though. Anybody who lives by the "Highlander" credo really needs to explore the world more.

For those of you who know me, you know I have a reputation helping guys get the girl. Now, re-read that last line very c-a-r-e-f-u-l-l-y. I am not stating that I am a relationship guru. I'm not. I help people hook up by teaching the way people think, body language, and other things.

The relationship is up to you. Don't look at me, I don't believe in Love. At least not now. And I have no plans on changing that right now in my life.

So, all this above is because a "friend" of mine on MySpace (http://myspace.com/gotvenus) wrote me to say that "He doesn't need any advice because he is a student of "Andrea Syrtash" - a Life Coach that does a show, "ONDating" for Yahoo Personals.

Uh, ok. She definitely has me on the credentials.

But I am not about the dating, I am about the hook up! But, to be fair, I went and checked her out anyways. Very beautiful girl, too! So, here is an example of her work, and my opinions to her advice, just to do a comparison...
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From "Office Romance: Taboo or To-Do?"
by Andrea Syrtash (note full article above, below is just a portion...)

Here are some other rules of managing office romance:

1. Do not blab to the whole office the night you first hook up. Confide in your friends in the 'real world'

2. Figure out if it's a fun roll in the hay or if you see long-term potential with this person. If it's fun sex, it may not be worth taking the risk but if it's looking like you may have a future with your office mate, it may be worth exploring.

3. And finally -- if it's explicitly stated in your contract that office romance is against company policy ask yourself -- is it worth losing your job over your crush? Maybe.

The bottom line is that office romance happens. In fact, I'm betting someone down the hall from you is having a little office fling of her own as you're reading this article...

So -- weigh the risks against the rewards when evaluating the possibility of an office romance. Do a solid cost-benefit analysis. I'm sure my math crush Jonathan would have been satisfied with that equation.

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Replies ~ Venus
1. I agree, no blabbing in the office, in fact, I would keep it from my friends too until I thought it was going to be something in my future to be with this person.
2. Again, I agree, nice to know where you stand - booty office call OR potential life mate?
3. I am unsure, even if explicitly stated in a work contract, I think with the right lawyer, you could have a good lawsuit.

And true, office romance does happen.

Okay, that is where it all ends in agreement.

Venus' BOTTOM LINE...

Guys: NEVER, NEVER, NEVER dip your "pen" into the "company inkwell" (for you sort of slow ones, that means NO OFFICE DATING! {unless it is not your office *wink*}).

Anyways, it never works out good, at least I have never heard, "Yeah, I met Jill at my office, I feel in love, asked her out, and we have been married and working together for 5 years...."

I HAVE heard, "My God, she went all psycho on me when I called it off. She threw stuff at me, had a tantrum in the office, got my boss pretty pissed at me..." or "I just happened to look in this girl's direction and she was all over me about cheating on her and how she supposed I wanted to do her now too..." and my personal favorite, "Man, my life is a living hell! I love her, but I can not escape her! I feel like she is up my ass constantly! We live together, sleep together, eat together, work together...I mean, sometimes I feel like the Men's restroom is my only safe haven..."

Take your risks, sure, for LOVE. But I am not about relationships. I am about the Game.

Girls: Please re-read the above. If you can not admit it, I can. You are an emotional powder keg just waiting to have your fuse lit. The work place is not the place to expose this. Office romance is so not worth it. They are men, they are going to piss you off at work. But when you are involved, it is AMPLIFIED. Look elsewhere for your boys. The Office should be Off your list of locations.
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Ok, so what have we established? Nothing really.

*Andrea has credentials and talks about dating and relationships.
-Venus has no credentials (all street) and talks about the hook up, not relationships.

*Andrea has a television/web show all about dating and relationships.
-Venus does not have her own show, but I'm not hating.

*You need advice on how to keep the dating and relationship going and fresh, seek Andrea.
-You just want to have fun, play the Game, keep dating, but different people, seek Venus.

And Finally, my MySpace friend needs to know that I am not pretending to be the end all be all person to go to for dating advice, and that there are many different advice givers about dating.

In any case...I have no desire to hunt Andrea down, pull out my ancient sword and try to be-head her as I scream, "There can only be ONE!"

Toddles,

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory