How Confidence Eqautes To Hooking Up With Women

This is such a vital and important subject! As men you have to know this through and through!

Confidence without substance (or nothing behind it backing it up) is nothing more than arrogance! And knowing that can make all the difference from you as a man being blown off or blown...

You see, women, for all our flaws you think we may have, absolutely know the difference between a man who thinks he confident, but really is arrogant, and a man who has confidence due to his vast experience.

Guess which one we are going home with?

That was a rhetorical question, if you for one moment thought to yourself, "uh, arrogant?" then quit reading right this very moment! I can not help you yet. You need to go back to "dating for noobs!" and after passing through them, then come back to me.

The irony in all this is that in order to get the confidence, you need the experience. Without it, you will just come across as an arrogant ass that out on the dance floor annoying us girls with your "I am not getting any tonight!" dance moves.

Thus the vital importance of this all. Why I will continue to push you to just get out there and experiment with something every day! Just say hi to every passing girl with a smile and direct eye contact.

Soon you will be seeing them shy away after saying hi. You might even over hear them say to one of their friends, "he's cute!"

Now, I ask you, if you can get to the point that almost every girl you say hi to at least says hi back, but often you get the head down shy look (body language saying she is digging you) or the occasional "he's cute", do you THINK you will start to have some confidence building in you?

Another rhetorical, keep up with me honey!

From there you can move on to asking for a casual "time shared" scenario (stay away from the term "dating", it puts the women on guard and apprehensive).

Just ask to buy them a cup of coffee or if you know where she is going to be, surprise her with a drink. Maybe a cola on a hot day or something. This is non-threatening and gives you more time to be with her and work your magic!

The point here is to get experience under your belt as fast as possible so that you can build up that confidence! Then you can go up to girls in the future and start a conversation but they will see the confidence of a man with experience, instead of a bloated ego ass that will be going home with just his hand again tonight!

Until next time, remember, no Glove, no Love!

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory - but damn! She's sexy!

Can We Talk?

I normally do not do this, mainly because I hate having to do it. But occasionally, I run across something on the "dating" advice columns and forums, etc., that I have to comment on. But because some authors do not like constructive criticism, sometimes I have to do it this way.

This helps further support my point that if you want to get the job of picking up women done right, you need to get a woman to teach you how to do the job. No disrespect to this author, overall it is a quick commentary on some things he might of tried and got lucky with once or twice.
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3 Ways on How to Get a Girl's Number In Ten Minutes
by Imran Naseem

"Many guys who want to get to know a girl often find it hard to get her cell phone number if they lack confidence. There are in fact several ways that you can use to have a girl give you her number in just 10 minutes. This article will explore three 3 different ways of having a girl give you her number in a short space of time without you having to beg."

Find it hard? Straight up, I am going to tell you no confidence, no phone number. Begging is not going to help regardless.

"One of the best ways of having a girl give you her number is make an excuse up. For example, you can say something like I" am going to be going away soon and would love to catch up with you again, is it alright if I can give you a call"? This is inviting the girl to say yes because it is a closed question and most likely she would say yes if you use the correct tone of voice and language. Make sure you are smiling and give her eye contact. Avoid looking away as girls can sometimes feel insecure about things like this."

An excuse has to be stated right. If you are going to use this tactic, then use something like, "Hey, I would love to talk about it right now, but I got this appointment I can't be late for...why don't you give me your number and I'll call afterwards to meet up with you somewhere and we can continue on, we can do that right?"

This is non-threatening, and the last part mentally hits the woman as "it's cool" and "no harm in talking right"? And of course, the getting a yes or agreement with the "right?" just subconsciously makes her want to continue saying yes. The more yes answers you can force, the more likely she will say yes to your asking for a number or "casual get together", because the word "date" will scare us off quickly, right students?

Okay, that being said, if you are a student of mine, then you know already, "can I give you a call?" is an absolute no-no! You are giving the girl a chance to say "No" to a yes or no answer!

If you are a student of mine, you know that you provide options for them to choose at your discretion, not yes or no! You are much better off saying, "You wanna give me your number? Or better yet here's mine, call me now so I can have it handy when I call you later..."

You see how it works? She is still allowed the "freedom" of choice here, but the only real choice is to give you her number! I will give the author credit about one thing though, he is correct in tone of voice, smiling, and eye contact. And I agree if you look away at that particular moment, it is not a good sign to us women.

"Secondly, one of the best ways to get a girl's number is to just directly ask her if you can have her number. Many girls would question you or might hesitate so this is where you have to play it cool and act as though she will not able to speak to you if she does not give her number. Make it out as though you are really busy with work and you are going to make time for her. Girls like a guy who plays "hard to get"."

If you want to play a pure numbers game, then just be direct with every woman. The problem is you have to go through a LOT of women that way to get your number.

There is a fine line between confidence and asshole, following this advice may put you in the later category. And for the record, we like mysterious, as in we can't quite figure out what is going on but we like it, NOT hard to get.

You are men, we can have you guys all day long! Any man with a working sex drive is never going to be hard to get, we know that!

Again I would suggest that you can use the "busy at the moment" technique as explained by me above. But if you are going to act like you are too busy with work, that means you're NOT going to have the time to dedicate to us, and let's be honest, we are attention craving, so we are going to drop this game. Maybe your admin can provide your busy ass what you were looking for in us.

"And finally, the best way to get a girl's number is to ask her to "miss call you" as you want to show her your latest ringtone song that you like. This will bring a bit of humor to this but it would not be a problem provided you get her trust.

For an excellent guide on how to get a girls number and how to win her heart go to http://www.IHaveFallenForYou.com.

Imran Naseem"

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Trust is the key to this last suggestion. But if you are meeting someone for the first time, you are not going to gain that sort of trust in the 10 minute window provided. If you actually succeed with this tactic, then I can assure you that woman was going to try to give you her number before you actually started to talk to each other anyways.

We are not going to fall for that! We have cell phones too you know...you wanna play some ring tone for me, go into your menu and play it. I am not going to call you to hear it! How simple do you think we really are?

Alright, there you have it. I am sorry Imran if you take offense to this. But I am giving your article and website a plug...*smooches* < < (that's me showing sum love...)

Tiffany and I talk about this all the time. There is a HUGE misappropriate proportion of men representing the "how to date women" category as compared to women. Not that it is bad, in fact, for us it is friggin' awesome!!! But we are always asking ourselves how do some of these men come to the conclusion of what they are presenting as helpful methods? A lot of the times, if you read that same advice to a woman, say a friend or sister, she is going to say something along the lines of, "yeah.....let me know how that works out for you..."

So, if you try Imran's methods....let me know how that works out for you....

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory

Are there women totally incapable of orgasm?

This is a touchy subject, as a man, to ask us women, right? Because if it is a friend or family member, you just feel creepy. And if it is a woman you are intimate with, she automatically seems to go on the defense about your sex life together. It seems no man can win asking this question, at least to a woman.

Well, I am going to help you out boys! As a woman, I will address this question head on, er, so to speak...

Let's start with the biological aspect to this. If the woman in question is a typical, healthy woman with all of her "parts" in tact and functional, then, Yes, she should be capable of having an orgasm. That being said, how you find out if everything is good biologically, well, let me know how that works out for you.

But, assuming biological systems a go...the most common reason a woman does not have an orgasm is because of "walls" or "barriers" that she has put up. This depends on her past sexual history. Her past experiences. Her childhood. Her morals. Her family's beliefs about sex while growing up. The influence of her mother, sisters, or friends on the subject. And probably a multitude of different facets of the woman's mind that you will never be able to figure out.

And that is what makes it difficult for you as a man. First, you have to find out what is causing the blockage in her. Then, IF you were successful at that, making sure that there is not more than one issue. Then, trying to find the ways to overcome these barriers.

Sound like a lot of work? It is. But the good news is that you can skip all of that emotional mind mapping described above and focus on one thing, and that one thing only! Wanna know what it is?

The only one thing you can learn that will ABSOLUTELY penetrate (no pun intended) that psychological barrier is that if the physical intensity overpowers all thoughts. And the ONLY way to do that is to perfect your ability to bring women to sexual arousal.

"But all you bitches are different" - that from one of the guys I hang out with. True, women (not all of us fall into the bitch category) are different. But I am telling you flat out, there are techniques you can master that bypasses all of this.

So, learn, perform, and master your art of getting her to sexual arousal and everything else will come into place (again, no pun intended).

Oh yeah, that's it baby, right THERE! LOL!

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory

P.S.
If you want to learn to master these sexual techniques, there is a system that teaches it.
You can check it out here: http://venusormars.com/masteroftheo

Might as well be truthful...

This philosophy gets me in trouble now and then. I have a history of not meaning to hurt somebody when I tell them the truth, but they did ask me.

It's not like I do not have a filter, I do, despite what my mother thinks. It is just that if you want an answer or advice from someone, I would think you would want the truth, right?

If I went to my financial adviser and asked, "Hey how's my accounts doing?" If they say, "Great!" then I get my quarterly statement showing a loss for all three months, I am going to be pissed!

Anyways, while out this weekend, a friend of mine asked for advice. And I think that the pure honesty that I answer with sometimes makes a friend wanna reach across a table and choke a bitch occasionally...

But then, wouldn't you WANT to know the truth? You did ask me, by the way, I did not just "offer" it up. See, my boys know I give advice out and they use me frequently in this manner. So when one of my boys asked why he is not succeeding with the ladies, I told him the exact reason, and although he was hurt (I could see it) I hope he understands that taking care of the problems will prevent him from so much rejection in the future.

It was a common problem, and I will give a solution in the next post.

~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory