Alright, I know that nobody is going to be able to explain this phenomenon to me, mainly because you would have to be a woman and so few read this blog.
But for you guys...holy shit what a gig! It happens almost every Friday and Saturday night. You go to a bar, a live band is playing, and as sure as hell there will be a row of "groupies" dancing in front of the stage (whether the music is dance able or not).
Now, I am not sure, even as a woman, what the hell happens here. Even on a psychological level I can not pin it down. I am sure it has something to do with the alpha dog effect, but I can not say for sure.
What I can say for sure is that if you are having absolutely no luck whatsoever with women, then pick up a guitar, bass guitar, or a set of drums and learn to play. Find a band that is doing at least bar gigs, and join it! I swear to you if you leave your mother's basement and can refrain from playing the world or warcraft long enough to be on that stage...you WILL get laid.
I can not explain WHY you will get laid, but you will. You could weigh 500 lbs., dripping with sweat, hair or no hair, and smelling like fritos and ass - AND YOU STILL ARE GET LAID THAT NIGHT! Those groupies are at least willing to go down on you.
Sometimes I don't even understand my own sex...just know that it is going to take more than a guitar in your hands and some shitty rendition of an AC/DC song to get me to go anywhere with you, let alone down. And you could have a record deal and fill stadiums, if you are not what I want, that you are not going to get what you want.
I guess I do not understand the groupie mentality. But be sure that groupie is going to be on every stiff member in the room at the "after party". So no game, no problem. Join the band boys! Just wrap the rascal...think of how many other "after parties" these girls have been at!
Showing posts with label mental state. Show all posts
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Saturday, June 21, 2008
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Are there women totally incapable of orgasm?
This is a touchy subject, as a man, to ask us women, right? Because if it is a friend or family member, you just feel creepy. And if it is a woman you are intimate with, she automatically seems to go on the defense about your sex life together. It seems no man can win asking this question, at least to a woman.
Well, I am going to help you out boys! As a woman, I will address this question head on, er, so to speak...
Let's start with the biological aspect to this. If the woman in question is a typical, healthy woman with all of her "parts" in tact and functional, then, Yes, she should be capable of having an orgasm. That being said, how you find out if everything is good biologically, well, let me know how that works out for you.
But, assuming biological systems a go...the most common reason a woman does not have an orgasm is because of "walls" or "barriers" that she has put up. This depends on her past sexual history. Her past experiences. Her childhood. Her morals. Her family's beliefs about sex while growing up. The influence of her mother, sisters, or friends on the subject. And probably a multitude of different facets of the woman's mind that you will never be able to figure out.
And that is what makes it difficult for you as a man. First, you have to find out what is causing the blockage in her. Then, IF you were successful at that, making sure that there is not more than one issue. Then, trying to find the ways to overcome these barriers.
Sound like a lot of work? It is. But the good news is that you can skip all of that emotional mind mapping described above and focus on one thing, and that one thing only! Wanna know what it is?
The only one thing you can learn that will ABSOLUTELY penetrate (no pun intended) that psychological barrier is that if the physical intensity overpowers all thoughts. And the ONLY way to do that is to perfect your ability to bring women to sexual arousal.
"But all you bitches are different" - that from one of the guys I hang out with. True, women (not all of us fall into the bitch category) are different. But I am telling you flat out, there are techniques you can master that bypasses all of this.
So, learn, perform, and master your art of getting her to sexual arousal and everything else will come into place (again, no pun intended).
Oh yeah, that's it baby, right THERE! LOL!
~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory
P.S.
If you want to learn to master these sexual techniques, there is a system that teaches it.
You can check it out here: http://venusormars.com/masteroftheo
Well, I am going to help you out boys! As a woman, I will address this question head on, er, so to speak...
Let's start with the biological aspect to this. If the woman in question is a typical, healthy woman with all of her "parts" in tact and functional, then, Yes, she should be capable of having an orgasm. That being said, how you find out if everything is good biologically, well, let me know how that works out for you.
But, assuming biological systems a go...the most common reason a woman does not have an orgasm is because of "walls" or "barriers" that she has put up. This depends on her past sexual history. Her past experiences. Her childhood. Her morals. Her family's beliefs about sex while growing up. The influence of her mother, sisters, or friends on the subject. And probably a multitude of different facets of the woman's mind that you will never be able to figure out.
And that is what makes it difficult for you as a man. First, you have to find out what is causing the blockage in her. Then, IF you were successful at that, making sure that there is not more than one issue. Then, trying to find the ways to overcome these barriers.
Sound like a lot of work? It is. But the good news is that you can skip all of that emotional mind mapping described above and focus on one thing, and that one thing only! Wanna know what it is?
The only one thing you can learn that will ABSOLUTELY penetrate (no pun intended) that psychological barrier is that if the physical intensity overpowers all thoughts. And the ONLY way to do that is to perfect your ability to bring women to sexual arousal.
"But all you bitches are different" - that from one of the guys I hang out with. True, women (not all of us fall into the bitch category) are different. But I am telling you flat out, there are techniques you can master that bypasses all of this.
So, learn, perform, and master your art of getting her to sexual arousal and everything else will come into place (again, no pun intended).
Oh yeah, that's it baby, right THERE! LOL!
~Venus
http://gotvenus.com - for the boys
http://venusormars.com/getmars - for the girls
http://myspace.com/gotvenus - self explanatory
P.S.
If you want to learn to master these sexual techniques, there is a system that teaches it.
You can check it out here: http://venusormars.com/masteroftheo
Thursday, June 5, 2008
Another Example Of One Of My Boys Using Me...
I know what you are thinking...but back the truck up. Let me explain...
This last weekend, several places were hoppin', and of course, me and my crew was at one of them. I was introduced to Petron this weekend, and I have to say it is very smooth...but that is not what this post is about, maybe another time.
Anyways...one of the guys I was hangin' out with targets himself a girlie and goes in for the kill. I was observing...because I had given him some advice, and I LOVE to observe the results.
He walks up to her and starts asking her lame questions...and I was thinking, "Uh-oh...I may have to bail him out of this one..." and continued to watch.
He said, "So...are you a model?"
She laughed at him and said, "NOOoooo!"
"Oh....are you an actress then?"
Again she laughed, "NOOooo!"
"Well, you have to work SOMEwhere that requires a beautiful woman..."
She only smiled this time, "No, I am a dental assistant..."
I am thinking, my GOD! I taught him better than that! Then, like a Phoenix, he rose right of the ashes in front of my eyes and says...
"Man.....I TOLD Venus those lame pick up lines would not work...."
She starts laughing again and he follows up with..."I am glad you got a sense of humor..." and then tells her his name. Following up with "Let me get you a drink for putting up with me anyways...you like beer or liquor?"
There's my boy, force an answer...not an out!
So you see, even though I thought he was not listening to me, he somehow used my advice and kicked it up a notch...thus, that is how one of my boys used me!
It must of worked because just over an hour later they were walking out the door together and just before leaving he turned to me and "pointed the gun finger and winked"...okay, sometimes you can take the boy outta cheezyville, but you can't take the cheese outta the boy...
Until next time
~ Venus
http://gotvenus.com
This last weekend, several places were hoppin', and of course, me and my crew was at one of them. I was introduced to Petron this weekend, and I have to say it is very smooth...but that is not what this post is about, maybe another time.
Anyways...one of the guys I was hangin' out with targets himself a girlie and goes in for the kill. I was observing...because I had given him some advice, and I LOVE to observe the results.
He walks up to her and starts asking her lame questions...and I was thinking, "Uh-oh...I may have to bail him out of this one..." and continued to watch.
He said, "So...are you a model?"
She laughed at him and said, "NOOoooo!"
"Oh....are you an actress then?"
Again she laughed, "NOOooo!"
"Well, you have to work SOMEwhere that requires a beautiful woman..."
She only smiled this time, "No, I am a dental assistant..."
I am thinking, my GOD! I taught him better than that! Then, like a Phoenix, he rose right of the ashes in front of my eyes and says...
"Man.....I TOLD Venus those lame pick up lines would not work...."
She starts laughing again and he follows up with..."I am glad you got a sense of humor..." and then tells her his name. Following up with "Let me get you a drink for putting up with me anyways...you like beer or liquor?"
There's my boy, force an answer...not an out!
So you see, even though I thought he was not listening to me, he somehow used my advice and kicked it up a notch...thus, that is how one of my boys used me!
It must of worked because just over an hour later they were walking out the door together and just before leaving he turned to me and "pointed the gun finger and winked"...okay, sometimes you can take the boy outta cheezyville, but you can't take the cheese outta the boy...
Until next time
~ Venus
http://gotvenus.com
Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
A self-fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true.
There are other ways to say this...what you reap, you sow, whether you think you can or can not do it-you are correct, what you believe-you can achieve, etc.
It may not be obvious to you, a lot of people take it for granted. Ultimately, beliefs about a subject control your experience of that subject. For instance, if in your beliefs, you think that you can never get the hot chicks, those beliefs about hot chicks prevent you from getting the very thing you want...the hot chicks!
Sometimes it is not a conscious effort. If during your experiences at trying to hook up, you can not relate to yourself any time that you were successful at getting the hot chicks, then suddenly that becomes the norm for all of your experiences.
This usually starts when you are a young, awkward teenager trying to ask the girls out for a date. And more than likely you were shot down, usually heartlessly because in high school we tend to be bitches, I ain't going to lie.
As cruel as it sounds, something in nature at that time makes us girls do all we can to break your ego. Now, before you go all crazy, it is not our faults, it is a flaw that seems to be hard wired in us. My belief is because we mature faster, and gain our confidence faster than teenage boys, and then the "oh you are sooo not going to get this" chic comes out of us.
But I am getting off course. . .
To get back to the guys, that first rejection is a significant event that will mold a lot in a boy, subconsciously. That rejection sets the standard for his beliefs (particularly his belief in himself). Now that the standard is set, the ego takes over, it has a template to follow and feed. Now a sort of filter is set so that you tend to ignore and forget positive events with women and dating, and focus, intensely, on all the negative events with women and dating. A "yes" or an easy let down does not get through the filter and remembered. But all the "bitches" and "humiliation rejections" make it right past the filter. Each one only re-inforcing the "standard" that every time you interact with a woman, you are expecting a repeat of that first rejection to play over and over and over again. And since the "filter" only lets in those experiences to re-inforce itself, it becomes a pattern. Usually this all happens subconsciously.
This is a long explanation, but the bottom line is if you expect you are going to fail miserably with asking a woman out....well, you are!
Until next time,
~ Venus
**** The Cat Is Out!!...If you think the above was a good explanation, then you need to go get my First in a dating series of writings, "The Oldest Battle" for free at: http://gotvenus.com
I would like some opinions please-be honest, always be honest...
Thanks,
~ Venus
There are other ways to say this...what you reap, you sow, whether you think you can or can not do it-you are correct, what you believe-you can achieve, etc.
It may not be obvious to you, a lot of people take it for granted. Ultimately, beliefs about a subject control your experience of that subject. For instance, if in your beliefs, you think that you can never get the hot chicks, those beliefs about hot chicks prevent you from getting the very thing you want...the hot chicks!
Sometimes it is not a conscious effort. If during your experiences at trying to hook up, you can not relate to yourself any time that you were successful at getting the hot chicks, then suddenly that becomes the norm for all of your experiences.
This usually starts when you are a young, awkward teenager trying to ask the girls out for a date. And more than likely you were shot down, usually heartlessly because in high school we tend to be bitches, I ain't going to lie.
As cruel as it sounds, something in nature at that time makes us girls do all we can to break your ego. Now, before you go all crazy, it is not our faults, it is a flaw that seems to be hard wired in us. My belief is because we mature faster, and gain our confidence faster than teenage boys, and then the "oh you are sooo not going to get this" chic comes out of us.
But I am getting off course. . .
To get back to the guys, that first rejection is a significant event that will mold a lot in a boy, subconsciously. That rejection sets the standard for his beliefs (particularly his belief in himself). Now that the standard is set, the ego takes over, it has a template to follow and feed. Now a sort of filter is set so that you tend to ignore and forget positive events with women and dating, and focus, intensely, on all the negative events with women and dating. A "yes" or an easy let down does not get through the filter and remembered. But all the "bitches" and "humiliation rejections" make it right past the filter. Each one only re-inforcing the "standard" that every time you interact with a woman, you are expecting a repeat of that first rejection to play over and over and over again. And since the "filter" only lets in those experiences to re-inforce itself, it becomes a pattern. Usually this all happens subconsciously.
This is a long explanation, but the bottom line is if you expect you are going to fail miserably with asking a woman out....well, you are!
Until next time,
~ Venus
**** The Cat Is Out!!...If you think the above was a good explanation, then you need to go get my First in a dating series of writings, "The Oldest Battle" for free at: http://gotvenus.com
I would like some opinions please-be honest, always be honest...
Thanks,
~ Venus
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